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The Middle Years of life are not simple and it’s common to start asking questions because you want to understand your life more!

  • Is this all there is?
  • What’s really going on?
  • Is there a purpose in all I’ve been through?
  • How will I deal with the future and all that it brings?
  • I’ve achieved so much, yet feel unfulfilled – how can I change this?
  • Do I believe what I thought I knew?
  • How can I find a clarity and purpose in what I do?
  • Is this humdrum – work, play, do; rinse and repeat – really all there is?
  • What is my why? And, how can I find a reason or purpose in my life?

I’ve been in my middle years for a while now. Personally, they prove to be a time to make sense of all I’ve been through. They provide an opportunity to consolidate myself and my life experiences into an increasingly authentic “me”.

I believe that I’m not the only one looking to make sense of their midlife and their world.

If you’re similar to me, I encourage you to explore your future starting here.

It’s time to move ahead with a new clarity in your life – you deserve to understand yourself and to live more effectively!

Being a Midlifer (35 – 65) comes with life experience

Much is behind you and much is to come. Fairly predictable things you’ve faced so far:

  • Seeking a sense of identity and a place in the world
  • Building a life at work, at home (and possibly a family)
  • Successes and failures at work, at home, in relationships
  • Bereavements: family, friends and things lost along the way
  • Health challenges on many possible levels – both yours and your loved ones
  • Stress, worry, fear and traumas in your mind, your body and even your spirit
  • Money has come and gone; sometimes with an epic loss or gain that’s stretched coping limits to the edge.

Things you will face in time:

  • Loss of your youth and being aware of your mortality and those of those you love – your parents, your partners, even your children; and your vitality, your place in life and in the world as you age.

Reflections, Realisations & Questions:

  • Who am I? What’ve I really achieved in my life? How can I make a difference?
  • I can’t change the past, what can I do in the future?
  • (Possibly) Is there’s any point going on without my partner, my status, my youthfulness?
  • Am I happy in the world I know? Am I fulfilled? If not, what needs to change?

Time marches onwards and we will age but, will we get wiser?

There’s much to be said for silver-haired wisdom. It may become hidden under layers of life stress and being busy, but wisdom is always available. You can tap into it anytime to find the answers you need.

Once re-found and renewed, with your wisdom the three “V”s (vitality, vim and vigour) can re-emerge. Together, you and I can explore and find ways for the three “Vs” to realise themselves.

It's Time to Re-Find Your Magic: are YOU up for it?

Let’s be very, very clear: you were born with magic, beauty and wisdom, no matter how cynical you’ve become in life.

Your magic is yours – whatever beliefs, faith, spirituality or no spirituality you hold – beneath the noise, that amazing you only awaits interaction.

You do not need to learn something new. It’s more simple – you only need to release some of what you have learnt.

Get curious and adventurous; work with me and re-find what’s ALREADY there!

Be Really Heard

Remember how you feel when someone really pays attention and deeply engages with you? When you are really listened to, you can unpack whatever’s in your way; you can hear what you need to say, when you’re heard like never before.

Re-Find Your Courage

You’ve reached your midlife, you’ve faced many, many difficult times and challenges, though you’ve likely forgotten how you got through. You’ve risen to and dealt with situations you never dreamt you ever could or would. Now is the time to remember that agility, and to move forward.

Take Time to Explore

Children are naturally curious – they and their imagination explore the world around them. They ask questions, poke, prod and make their own world maps. Now is your opportunity to check your childhood maps and re-draw what needs attention.

Exercise What's Inside

“Doing” exercise is a complex issue. You may have tried some of these fixes: going to the gym, doing this or doing that in your mind, yoga practice or following directions in a book – but how many honestly stuck or made you a deeply different person?

You are a human being not a human doing and (ironically) you do not need “fixing” – you need a challenge to re-focus your attention, thinking and beliefs. When you return to exercise what’s real inside you, all the other exercises bring benefit.

Rebalance Your WellBeing

Health is such a tricky topic, with many views on what being healthy means. If you have health issues – physical, emotional or spiritual – they will and do influence or reduce any sense of wellbeing you have. Dealing with any of them will improve your life. That’s where herbal medicine, food intolerance testing and health & wellbeing coaching prove powerful tools to aid your recovery.

Return to Your Power

When you know your self – your real motivations, your truth (as you see it), your needs, your hopes and your dreams – from an overview of clarity, you return to your personal power. How? Because you’ve chosen to engage, to be heard, to be courageous, to explore, and to re-balance your health and wellbeing. That’s real power!

My experience working with Benn was extremely pleasant. He helped me see the bigger picture in analyzing my health and working on my journey with grief. Benn’s ease in which he communicates was a very friendly, concerned and helpful manner that made me feel like he truly did look out for each individual customer of his, tailoring to their needs
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Transitions Mentoring

Within you, you have remarkable resources to  deal with any time of transition (change or loss) that affects your  life.

You just need to [re-]find these resources.

Potential solution: Choose a service that enables you to deal with both the acute/current problem – a transition, loss, bereavement – and empowers you towards your own independence towards the future.

Do this and you’ll attain incredibly powerful results and clarity. Click here for more information.


Being 35 – 65 [in midlife] is a potent time of challenge when you become increasingly aware of mortality and death – of parents, of family – even your own… Parents age, children grow, things change and life demands so much…

Everything gathered together makes coping impossible as heartbreaks, sanity and conflicting emotions struggle to deal with such demands. And you feel a sense of loss of self; even traumatised.

Potential solution: Choose a holistic Midlifer Life-Changing bespoke service that’s, personalised to you and your needs.

Options include: herbal medicine, personalised mentoring and care to explore and find your own sense of well-being. Click here for more information.

End of Life & Living Funerals

Each individual is unique and deserves their opportunity to celebrate their life whilst hale of mind, if not hale in body. To lift a glass with loved ones, to smile, to touch, to hug, to have one last dance. To laugh; to cry.

Potential solution: Living funerals or “awake wakes” are special, well-held spaces for one at end of life to say their farewells in person. For family and friends to make memories; share love; to remember the beauty of life, even as life is fading.

You get to celebrate your life together unrestricted by chapel times and death getting in the way. Click here for more information.

Dealing with Death

At death, the person we knew is no more. Losing their personality changes everything and forms much of the grief you may face – you may longer hold them, care for them, or experience their presence for they are silent. But your love is not.

Cultural beliefs may include don’t discuss “it” for it may be contagious; ignore it; fear it; don’t acknowledge it. If you follow these ideas, then death can’t overwhelm you…

These old customs encourage keeping silent  about the painful, frightening things of life. Whilst no one may listen to how you feel, they will tell you should deal with your emotions, to fix your mind, thoughts and feelings. Question is: how would you like to feel?

Potential solution: When you choose to release bottled up emotions without judgement, you’ll feel cared for and released from the darkness of pain.

This can be achieved by regaining perspective of your life through airing what you’re thinking and feeling about your grief. With a person detached from the rest of your world in a safe, confidential environment. Click here for more information.


There are many ways to design or host a funeral. For some people, tradition is essential; for others, a service without the sombre, formalised rituals suits them as a preference.

Many modern funerals are personalised with a blend of tradition with modern ritual that fits the one who has died, and their family. Whether this is religious, secular, with or without spirituality.

Potential solution: You require a completely different way of doing a funeral. One that encompasses the one who has died;  their and your beliefs and rituals; one that fulfils your needs as you say farewell in whatever way works for you. For you have designed and created a funeral you’ll cherish and value by working with a professional. Click here for more information.

Grief & Bereavement

Grief – the experience of loss and how you deal with it – is very individual to you.

Loss comes in many forms; the end of a life, the end of a relationship, the end of a role at work, significant life changes such as moving home or a health crisis…

One description of grief is “heartbreak”, a devastation that may influence an entire life, to be invisibly ingrained with far-reaching effects.

How you respond to these knocks and heartbreaks depends upon your resilience and perspective.

Potential solution: When you gain a fresh perspective, you arrive at a place you can deal with something that [invisibly] traps you. On release, you can regain your inner strength to face life. Click here for more information.

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