Bereavement and Transitions Mentoring
The times you have to face dying, death and bereavement, will be some of the hardest times you will ever have to face in your life. No age group is immune to death, loss, bereavement and grief; midlifers however, increasingly face death as parents, friends and sadly, even their children, die ahead of you.
Just consider how each age group and generation faces the challenges grief brings:
the youngest may be devastated by death but have no means to understand or deal with it;
teenagers may understand what’s happened, but as they’re already struggling with their own personal identity, lack the ability to express their feelings and need, thus slump into deeper confusion and stress;
young adults have been around longer and realise how final death may seem, yet do not know how to deal with its effects, or how to find an ear to share how they feel – younger people may not understand and older contacts have no time to listen and pay attention, as they’re dealing with their own emotions and concerns;
midlifers increasingly face death and their own mortality and they’re increasingly becoming the older generation and all that means; when in themselves, they may be asking about what their own role is in the world as things increasingly become more demanding, and fast!
the elderly see the world change around them as their Loved ones, their peers, what they’ve always known rapidly disappearing at a rate of knots; people die before their time and the elderly are expected to care for and support the younger ones who forget that the older ones, need love, care and support and consideration, too…
My role at these times is to listen and to hear what you need to say; to understand and to witness what’s happening and to do so with a caring, considered compassion that will help you deal with the emotional pain you have to deal with, and to help you through the time of grief and bereavement that the transitions of dying and death have in your life.
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Transitions include the pain, grief and confusion of a lost relationship, a lost known, a death; facing your own vulnerability and so much more.
You have resources and resilience to deal with these issues, though they need marshalling to get you through.
Choose a service that enables you to dip into and deal with your life changes, transitions, bereavements, turmoils and confusions. Do this and you’ll attain incredibly powerful results and clarity click here
Midlife, from 35 – 65, is a pincer time. You become aware of your aging and mortality; and the complexities of aging parents, children, relationships and dying, death and grief.
By midlife, you’re expected to have the answers to everything life throws your way. However, your emotions, your sense of sanity and your ability to cope are hindered by your losses and heartbreaks.
Holistic Midlifer Life-Changing Packages are bespoke services, personalised to you and your needs.
You choose the options for your needs: herbal medicine, personalised mentoring and care to explore and find your own sense of well-being click here
End of Life & Living Funerals
Each experience of end of life is totally individual, independent and unique. For those hale in mind, yet frail of body, this can provide an ideal opportunity to celebrate with your loved ones. To lift a glass and to laugh, cry, reminisce, touch, hug, to have one last dance.
Living funerals or “awake wakes” are special, well-held spaces for you to be in the company of friends and family, making memories; sharing love and remembering the beauty of life, even as life is fading. You celebrate your life together unrestricted by chapel times and death getting in the way click here
Dealing with Death
The one thing we know for sure at death is that the person we knew is no more. And, it’s losing that personality that makes for such a difficult time. We can no longer love them the way we did; their hands are cold, their heart no longer beats. There is silence where once there was vibrant energy.
With death comes taboos – don’t discuss it; it may be contagious; ignore it; fear it; don’t acknowledge it, that way death can’t overwhelm you.
The old customs encourage not talking about the painful, frightening things of life, and there are no rules of how you “should” deal with your feelings and pain, though many people may tell you how to, ought or should fix your mind, thoughts and feelings.
How would you like to feel? Liberated, released from the darkness of the pain?
Regain perspective of your life by airing what you’re thinking and feeling with a person detached from the rest of your world. From this, you can release emotions bottled up, whilst you feel cared and safe. Click here
Death has many, often sombre, formalised rituals and traditions that don’t suit everyone. The landscape of funerals is moving towards personalised services the life of the person who has died, and the needs of the people saying goodbye to them.
Modern choices include rituals that are either secular or non-religious, some with spirituality included, some no elements of spirituality or religion at all.
You may need a completely different experience from the established way of doing a funeral. If that is true, create and design a funeral you’ll cherish and value; work with a professional and get just what you need click here
Grief & Bereavement
How you deal with grief and bereavement is very individual. They in your life whenever any loss happens, not just because of death e.g. at the end of a friendship, relationship; a career or job role; retirement; moving home; a health crisis, to name a few.
One description of grief is “heartbreak”, an experience of devastating, one that can influence a lifetime, to become so ingrained it’s invisible.
How you respond to these knocks of life and death depends on your resilience and perspective.
When you gain a fresh perspective, you arrive at a place you can deal with something that traps you, is released. Click here