Understand Life Transitions & How to Manage Them

Life Transitions
My recommendation to anyone who needs support and wisdom in their personal lives and in order to keep on track professionally, talk to Benn.
- Reverend Noel Lockyer-Stevens

Life Transitions Happen

Transition and change are what life is all about. Your life will be all-change, all of the time. You’ll not notice most transitions such as ageing, time of day, the wear of clothes; whilst some will smack you in the face by their very suddenness and their effects will ripple throughout your life.

Your life has three constants:

  •  Breathing – when you exchange oxygen for carbon dioxide, it’s very simple, you’re alive with resources to deal with the world. Conscious and appreciative breathing is a simple act that brings so much benefit
  • Thinking – if you’re alive, you’re thinking, mostly subconsciously. How you feel follows how you think: feeling angry? You’re having angry thoughts. Feeling happy? You’re having happy thoughts. Your thinking creates your reality. Your ability to think is powerful. It can be used to build and create wonder or breakdown and destroy life…
  • Problems (transitions*) – sometimes, a split-second is all it takes for change to happen. Large or small, transitions arrive stealthily, blatantly and change so much, so quickly, leaving you with the fallout.

How you can re-gain your life

Simple fact: Your life is full of transitions.

Some will be joyous – you finding love, having children, sharing victories and achieving goals. Sad irony: positive changes can be hard for you to deal with (ask newlyweds or massive lottery winners).

Others will be traumatic – you’re rejected, made redundant, become bereaved or experience a sudden illness affecting yourself or your loved ones.

Focusing on the traumatic:

sudden changes include – health, bereavement, a relationship ending, losing a job, a terrible diagnosis

gradual changes include – the end of an era, the end of a life, a slow fade away of what was known.

Each transition is: what you knew to be certain of has disappeared like a puff of smoke in a breeze.

Being aware of single or cumulative transitions may prove too difficult to deal with and force you to re-evaluate your life. The details of the transitions you face are unique to you; the problem is always about how you feel and how you deal with them.

You gaining clarity on how you relate to your world is powerful. That’s what Transitions Mentoring is all about.

Transitions Mentoring:

the Re-Gain Your Life Service


In Practice

Not every person who is challenged emotionally requires reassurance, care, support and considered kindness; if you do, however, transitions mentoring will empower you towards clarity.

Your mentor will aid you through your process. Together with a combination of tools, questions and exploration, you’ll get greater clarity to deal with whatever challenges you and your world.

What you get, what you gain

  • you get support, respect and listened to, so you can feel grounded in the place you are right now
  • you’re encouraged to recognise your own potential
  • you’ll be guided with empathy on your journey to achieve your potential.

Where Transitions Mentoring Makes a Difference

Divorce & Separation

Support for you as you go through a divorce or separation, a relationship dissolving – marital or business. Empowering you to create a stable foundation to build a new life upon.

Dying, Death & Bereavement

Caring for you whilst you’re affected by grief due to the dying and/or death of someone close. Bereavement can be powerful by its presence in life whilst a kind, empathetic and understanding ear, can be incredibly supportive and transformative click here

Serious Illness

Encouraging you to find strength and resources to deal with the effects serious illness is having on your life and finding ways to be empowered regardless of the circumstances.

Any Situation or Time of Change

Helping you to get your head (and emotions) around change. When you face the effects of change, sometimes requires you sharing how you feel, being heard and being guided through your process of understanding how you’ll live on as the change reverberates through your life.

Recent Testimonials

Thank you Benn. I feel very humbled. Thank you for the huge amount of kindness and support you have given me since (our) first meeting. For anybody reading this let me just say that Benn is a really great guy and very definitely a good man to have on your side. If you haven’t yet connected with him you should. You will be honoured.
- Mike Turner / Dr. Mick

I was part of a virtual boardroom with Benn and his contributions to all our problems were extremely insightful, often cutting through all the c**p and revealing a simple thought or concept we hadn’t even considered.

He doesn’t babble, just asks very specific and caring questions. A rare skill. Thank you for making me think differently.

- Lesley Morrissey


As someone whose field seems to be in the area of helping people through all kinds of challenges, I think that I have run into an individual who truly embodies a talent for insightful and caring communication about the core issues we all face. He has reopened my eyes to the possibility of networking- but also to other areas of my life, also important.
- Johnny Blue Star

For those who haven’t met Benn, he lives by the Law of The Garbage Truck and more, it’s an absolute joy, and a lesson, to be around him and to watch him interacting with people in everyday life.

(The Law of the Garbage Truck: How to Respond to People Who Dump on You, and How to Stop Dumping on Others)

- Andrew Horder

Joyful Genius

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Transitions Mentoring

Within you, you have remarkable resources to  deal with any time of transition (change or loss) that affects your  life.

You just need to [re-]find these resources.

Potential solution: Choose a service that enables you to deal with both the acute/current problem – a transition, loss, bereavement – and empowers you towards your own independence towards the future.

Do this and you’ll attain incredibly powerful results and clarity. Click here for more information.


Being 35 – 65 [in midlife] is a potent time of challenge when you become increasingly aware of mortality and death – of parents, of family – even your own… Parents age, children grow, things change and life demands so much…

Everything gathered together makes coping impossible as heartbreaks, sanity and conflicting emotions struggle to deal with such demands. And you feel a sense of loss of self; even traumatised.

Potential solution: Choose a holistic Midlifer Life-Changing bespoke service that’s, personalised to you and your needs.

Options include: herbal medicine, personalised mentoring and care to explore and find your own sense of well-being. Click here for more information.

End of Life & Living Funerals

Each individual is unique and deserves their opportunity to celebrate their life whilst hale of mind, if not hale in body. To lift a glass with loved ones, to smile, to touch, to hug, to have one last dance. To laugh; to cry.

Potential solution: Living funerals or “awake wakes” are special, well-held spaces for one at end of life to say their farewells in person. For family and friends to make memories; share love; to remember the beauty of life, even as life is fading.

You get to celebrate your life together unrestricted by chapel times and death getting in the way. Click here for more information.

Dealing with Death

At death, the person we knew is no more. Losing their personality changes everything and forms much of the grief you may face – you may longer hold them, care for them, or experience their presence for they are silent. But your love is not.

Cultural beliefs may include don’t discuss “it” for it may be contagious; ignore it; fear it; don’t acknowledge it. If you follow these ideas, then death can’t overwhelm you…

These old customs encourage keeping silent  about the painful, frightening things of life. Whilst no one may listen to how you feel, they will tell you should deal with your emotions, to fix your mind, thoughts and feelings. Question is: how would you like to feel?

Potential solution: When you choose to release bottled up emotions without judgement, you’ll feel cared for and released from the darkness of pain.

This can be achieved by regaining perspective of your life through airing what you’re thinking and feeling about your grief. With a person detached from the rest of your world in a safe, confidential environment. Click here for more information.


There are many ways to design or host a funeral. For some people, tradition is essential; for others, a service without the sombre, formalised rituals suits them as a preference.

Many modern funerals are personalised with a blend of tradition with modern ritual that fits the one who has died, and their family. Whether this is religious, secular, with or without spirituality.

Potential solution: You require a completely different way of doing a funeral. One that encompasses the one who has died;  their and your beliefs and rituals; one that fulfils your needs as you say farewell in whatever way works for you. For you have designed and created a funeral you’ll cherish and value by working with a professional. Click here for more information.

Grief & Bereavement

Grief – the experience of loss and how you deal with it – is very individual to you.

Loss comes in many forms; the end of a life, the end of a relationship, the end of a role at work, significant life changes such as moving home or a health crisis…

One description of grief is “heartbreak”, a devastation that may influence an entire life, to be invisibly ingrained with far-reaching effects.

How you respond to these knocks and heartbreaks depends upon your resilience and perspective.

Potential solution: When you gain a fresh perspective, you arrive at a place you can deal with something that [invisibly] traps you. On release, you can regain your inner strength to face life. Click here for more information.

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